The Mills Brothers said it best, “You always hurt the one you love.”
As a disease, addiction can make someone use their intimate knowledge against their significant other. Addicts frequently use manipulation to get what they want and avoid what they don’t. Additionally, if the addiction causes violence, their significant other is typically the first to feel the backlash.
Loved ones often make exceptions or compromises for addicts in order to keep their relationship intact. However, even the best intentions can be poisoned by enabling an addict to continue their substance abuse. An addict’s pleas toward their significant other make it difficult to decline their request.
Conversely, others believe they can force their addicted loved one to quit, harming both the addict’s health and their relationship. Attempting to control an addict’s treatment is dangerous to both parties and can cause more harm than good.
It is important to remember that an addict’s behaviors are symptoms of a disease and not a direct reflection of their character. However, enabling an addict to continue their substance abuse does not help them recover, nor does it save the relationship.