Getting Your Home Ready in 6 Easy Steps
1. Clean the House: You may think it is strange, but the first thing you should do is clean your house. When you have a loved one coming home after rehab, some changes need to be made to the home to make it a comfortable and safe living environment for them. You first want to make sure to go through your home as much as possible to eliminate any items such as drugs or paraphernalia.
If your loved one was addicted to heroin, you might find syringes under the couch, in the air vents, behind furniture, hidden in the garage, stashed in the backyard – you name it, it could have been a hiding place for drugs, alcohol, and/or drug-related items. You’d actually be surprised at some of the hiding spaces, so it’s best to think creatively when doing so. To make it not such a burdensome task, ask someone else to help you. Not only will this make the job easier, but this person can serve as a second pair of eyes and might find items you miss.
Doing a thorough cleaning of your house could directly impact the difference between a 3-minute craving and a relapse. Removing those temptations before they return could be the best thing for them and your family. Not only is it dangerous to have drug-related items hidden randomly in the house, but removing that temptation could save a life from an overdose.
2. Encourage a Routine: In rehab, a daily routine is important for a successful recovery. Many people can get stuck in their heads about their substance abuse history. They tend to focus on negative thought patterns like their raw feelings regarding their period of active addiction or handle daily stressors. Those negative thought patterns could push them right into a relapse. Having a set daily routine can promote a healthy lifestyle in recovery. Healthy routines after treatment can entail making the bed, cleaning, maintaining a job, fellowship meetings, gym time, school, or household responsibilities. Staying mentally and physically busy can mean the difference between a fulfilling life in recovery and relapse. Help your addicted loved one stay treatment-focused by keeping them busy.
3. Locking Up Prescription Pills: Many people are on the fence about whether they should lock up their prescription pills when their loved one returns from rehab. Ultimately, the decision is up to you, but the simple answer is yes. Early recovery is a journey; on any journey, there will be ups and downs and trials and temptations. Your loved one has to want to stay sober; that doesn’t mean you can’t help them along on this journey. Removing their access to painkillers, anti-depressants, or even alcohol will decrease the potential for relapse. As you begin to trust their mindset in recovery, you may be comfortable enough to stop locking up your prescription pills.
4. Practicing Open Communication: Active addiction is all about isolation and deception, so practicing open communication and inclusion should be at the top of the priority list. You must talk to your loved one about potential triggers, their struggles, life goals, healthy boundaries, what do they fear the most about relapse, what you fear the most about their relapse, when they are uncomfortable, and where they should turn to for continued care or co-occurring disorder problems. Please encourage them to get involved in volunteer work, religious events, hobbies, and/or sober community functions and meetings. It’s best to avoid a situation where they are bored and restless in their room. Practicing open communication with your addicted loved one will not only mend the relationship but also rebuild trust in each other.
5. Setting Healthy Boundaries: ABTRS is sure you have heard how important it is to establish healthy boundaries. A big part of living a life of recovery is being accountable for your actions and being proud of the time and effort into maintaining their sobriety. Sometimes healthy boundaries look like strict rules with consequences, and other times it looks like leaving the nest. Many family members no longer trust their loved ones because of the drug-seeking behaviors that go with active addiction. Many loved ones ask if they do not house their loved one, will they relapse? That is a difficult question, but like all difficult questions, there are complex answers.
The stress of not having a safe place to live can indeed cause a relapse, but rehab teaches your loved ones how to properly cope with the stress that they might experience once they leave treatment. Sometimes it is better to leave the environment that promoted their active addiction lifestyle. In rehab, your loved one is encouraged to consider a sober living home, and we highly encourage you to do the same for your loved one.
Sober living establishments provide your loved one with a strict routine similar to the one in rehab, surrounded by people who are also in recovery, drug, and substance-free environment, and more often than not, sober livings have in-house fellowship meetings. Just because you do not house your loved one doesn’t mean your loved one with turn back to active addiction. That healthy boundary of living apart could be the best thing for your relationship on the mend.
Decreasing triggers around the house: If your loved one does continue to reside with you and your family, consider decreasing triggers that could cause a relapse. Talking to your addicted loved one about their triggers could ensure a happy, healthy environment to live in. Triggers vary from person to person, but some common triggers are:
- Easy access to alcohol and pills.
- Friendly visits from people they used to drink or get high with.
- Things they used to do drugs ( straws, syringes, pill cutters, grinders, pipes ).
6. Search for Local Fellowship Groups & Meetings: In rehab, your loved one was introduced to fellowship support groups and the value of attending a meeting. Exploring your area for local AA, CMA, HA, or NA support groups could demonstrate to your addicted loved one that you are here to support them and know what they need in early recovery. Know that your loved one should be held accountable for finding the right sponsor and working their steps, but you can encourage them to get involved in the sober community in your area the moment they return.