The Effects of Drug & Alcohol Addictions on Children: Losing Your Kids to CPS
Many parents with substance abuse problems lose their children to Child Protective Services (CPS). Once in recovery, parents often want to get custody back and most are given an opportunity to do so. These parents must prove that they are fit for the job and that their parenting is in the child’s best interest.
Children are the most vulnerable individuals who are affected by substance abuse. When guardians struggle with substance abuse, children are often neglected, abused and subject to traumatic experiences. This makes them more prone to mental and physical illness, as well as developing unhealthy coping mechanisms and future substance abuse.
A new Harvard study reveals that it is three times more likely that these kids will be abused in some way, and four times as likely that they will be neglected. Additionally, research in the last decade shows that there are significant neurobiological consequences to early stress and maltreatment. Differences in brain development, correlated with psychological and physical health issues, were found in people who experienced excessive stress in childhood.
Learn about why CPS takes kids away, the correlation between childhood trauma and substance abuse, as well as how to regain custody of your child in sobriety.
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- The Family Disease of Addiction: The Environment of Drugs and Alcohol That Children Grow Up In
- Losing Your Children to Child Protective Services Due to the Severity of Your Substance Abuse Addiction
- Substance Abuse & Child Trauma: The Dark Reality of Drug & Alcohol Addictions
- Alcohol and Childhood Trauma: Learning Destructive Coping Mechanisms at Such a Young Age
- The Violence and Neglect Children Witness with Parents Who have a Drug Addiction
- Achieving Your Version of Success After Drug and Alcohol Treatment: Getting Your Child Back From CPS
- Working with Child Protective Services and Not Against Them
- Let’s Get Your Children Back Together: ABTRS is Here to Help
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The Family Disease of Addiction: The Environment of Drugs and Alcohol That Children Grow Up In
Addiction is a physical and psychological disorder; the addicted brain is crippled by dependence so that healthy decisions and prioritization are virtually impossible. Sadly, parents are not immune to addiction and the children of addicted parents are at high risk for neglect, abuse and trauma.
Parents addicted to substances usually struggle financially, making it difficult to care for their children. Children may not get enough food to eat or proper clothing. They may suffer in the extreme cold and heat, or be without clean water, if utilities are shut off.
Many children are left alone, unsupervised, while their parents are intoxicated or out obtaining more drugs or alcohol. Any young child is in danger when unsupervised, as children don’t know to take certain precautions or are incapable of doing so. They are vulnerable to injury, illness, as well as the abuse of ill-intentioned adults.
Traumatic experiences are common for these children, in the form of scary or stressful situations, as well as direct abuse. A child may see a parent unresponsive or convulsing from overdose. A dealer might come to collect money at gunpoint. Parents under the influence or withdrawing aren’t in their right minds. They may hurt or mistreat kids when intoxicated or experiencing the mood fluctuation, mental disclarity or psychosis of withdrawal.
Losing Your Children to Child Protective Services Due to the Severity of Your Substance Abuse Addiction
Child Protective Services (CPS) often intervenes when families are affected by parental substance abuse. Custody rights are always based on what is in the child’s best interest. While it is preferred to keep children with parents, or at least in the family, parental rights are often removed for perpetual substance abuse issues.
If children are removed from custody, the law demands an attempt for parent and child to be reunited at least once. If the parent doesn’t rectify the problem in a year, though, rights are removed again. Sadly, children are separated from their parents often due to substance abuse.
Sometimes this happens after arrests or drug charges, sometimes because of reported abuse or negligence. Whatever the reason, it is always sad to see families split up. CPS attempts to work with many families, with a main goal of keeping parents and children together. The highest priority, though, is always to ensure the safety and well-being of the child.
Visitation and unsupervised parenting time are prohibited once a parent is discovered to be abusing drugs or alcohol. After this point, a parent must prove that treatment for substance abuse is completed and he or she has sustained sobriety.
Substance Abuse Affects Each Family Member Differently
- PTSD Continues the Cycle of Addiction From Generation to Generation
Post Traumatic Stress from living in an environment influenced by substance abuse increases the likelihood that of the child will abuse alcohol and drugs when older.
Substance Abuse & Child Trauma: The Dark Reality of Drug & Alcohol Addictions
Children who grow up around substance abuse often develop unhealthy coping mechanisms, one of which is abusing substances themselves. Children learn from their parents how to behave, how to deal with stress, appropriate relationship boundaries, and so on.
If parents often use substances to cope with stress or uncomfortable feelings, their children learn this. Not all children of addicted parents will come to abuse substances, but it is a common narrative.
There are many reasons for this, though, beyond simply learning the behavior. As these children are more likely to experience trauma, neglect, and abuse, they have the utmost need for coping skills to process these challenging experiences. Unfortunately, if their parents are in active addiction, it is unlikely that they develop healthy coping skills.
It is probable that these children will use Alcohol or drugs early in life. With little to no healthy coping skills, many of them will use substances out of desperation to deal with their trauma.
Unfortunately, when trauma is processed improperly in this way, it is likely to create Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). It shouldn’t be a surprise, then, that PTSD is a common underlying cause of addiction.
Alcohol and Childhood Trauma: Learning Destructive Coping Mechanisms at Such a Young Age
It is known that alcoholism often runs in the family. Parents who abuse Alcohol are prone to impulsive behavior, anger problems and depression. These attributes are also commonly observed in children of alcoholics.
Often, it is the children of alcoholics who take the brunt of that anger and abuse. If it isn’t anger, then it is often neglect. Even high functioning alcoholics who don’t display any of this must face the physical consequences of drinking. These may also be traumatic for children to witness.
It is easy for many of these children to start drinking at a young age, which increases their own likelihood of developing addiction.
- Addiction is a Family Disease
Addiction affects every family member differently. Understanding addiction as a family disease encourages healing for everyone.
The Violence and Neglect Children Witness with Parents Who have a Drug Addiction
The situation isn’t very different for the children of people who abuse drugs. Behavior patterns may vary depending on the drug, though impulsive behavior and mood fluctuation are consistent in all addiction. Many children are abandoned by their parents that are caught up in their active addiction. They would leave their children with relatives or neighbors for days to binge on drugs or alcohol.
A parent who is taking Heroin, for example, may be more neglectful, sleeping most of the time, unreliable when it comes to taking or picking up their children from school. Someone addicted to Meth may experience psychosis that results in violent or scary behavior that can cause trauma. This trauma can be from physical abuse or witnessing domestic abuse.
Drug use is normalized to many of these children, as they observe it at home from a young age. Because of this, they are more likely to try drugs that other kids wouldn’t dream of, and at a younger age.
Achieving Your Version of Success After Drug and Alcohol Treatment: Getting Your Child Back From CPS
Getting custody back once you are sober can be a long and challenging road. Don’t give up hope, though, it is possible if you put in effort and time. First, get some legal advice; you probably qualify for free legal aid.
To regain custody, you must prove to the court that you: have completed addiction treatment, are actively sustaining recovery and are not using Alcohol or drugs currently.
Based on the severity of your case and whether you were arrested or not, the time it takes to do this can vary. For some it may take years, while it could be a matter of months for others. There are many things you can do to help the process along.
Stay involved in the recovery community by going to regular meetings and other events. Attend counseling sessions or take a class on parenting. Keep a consistent job and maintain your financial responsibilities. Keep your home in a condition that would be suitable for a child: clean and safe.
Make sure you document everything you do. Save every form or report, and take photographs of every step even if it seems small. With the right perseverance, you will be reunited before you know it.
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Working with Child Protective Services and Not Against Them
When parent(s) are faced with an open CPS investigation or case, the best course of action is to comply with the CPS case manager’s requests. An open CPS case can often feel like it’s the end of the world. The truth is, it is only the end of the world if the parent(s) make no effort to comply. If the parent is struggling with drug and/or alcohol addiction, complying may be impossible without intervention.
If you find yourself with an open CPS case due to drug and/or alcohol use, the best way to get your children back in your care, is to come into treatment. Of course, it is not just about getting your children back home with you, it is about helping you overcome your addiction and create a safe, healthy, and stable environment for your children.
The sooner that you get into treatment, the better. Our network of addiction treatment centers offers individualized treatment that is tailored just for your own unique history and circumstances. Seeking treatment will send the message of your willingness to get better for yourself and your children. It is time to get the help that you need, so that you be the amazing parent that you were meant to be.
Let’s Get Your Children Back Together: ABTRS is Here to Help
A Better Today Recovery Services understands how difficult it can be to be in a situation where CPS is intervening, taking, or wanting to take your children. Our network has helped patients get through situations just like this and have witnessed the mothers and fathers in our treatment programs reunite with their children after meeting the requirements of CPS.
If you are in a situation where you are being investigated by CPS or have had your children taken, we can help you. A Better Today Recovery Services can connect you with a treatment center that will communicate with CPS. An effective treatment center will be by your side through the entire CPS case process and be in contact directly with CPS case managers, giving them updates on the status of your progress. Their staff will accompany you to any court dates or hearings and ensure that you have all the support you need.
Proving your willingness to do the right thing for your children is very important. Know that we will be by your side through it all. The healing journey starts today. Let us help you take back control of your life.
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