According to the National Survey on Drug Use and Health in 2013, 8.8 percent of young individuals from 12 to 17 use illicit drugs. It also discovered that more exposure to several types of drugs and a growing percentage in drug use as an individual gets older.
When your son or daughter decides to accept the advice from you to get the help they need for addiction, you must realize he or she is making a drastic life-changing commitment that can be frightening. Your child will have feelings of discomfort, confusion, and nervousness that might make them want to give up since living with the substance seems a lot easier at that moment.
You, as a parent, must make changes yourself, such as not helping them financially or giving them a place to live or stay if they don’t get the treatment you want them to. Although you might want to hold their hand throughout their rehabilitation process to ease their discomfort, you need to learn that it will not help them in the end.
The first 30 days will give them the time to focus on their recovery learn what their triggers are and why they decided to use them, to begin with. This will also give them time to separate from the demands and temptations of life and learn how to deal with those struggles without drugs. During the first 30 days of treatment, they should learn how to utilize their time. Some of the things you can do to help:
Boundaries are making rules, so your child knows that you will not just give them everything they ask.
While in treatment, they should have already constructed a continuing support plan to continue to stay away from drugs with the help of others. Support should come from sponsors, religious leaders, family, and new sober friends. The addicted people should surround themselves with positive peers who are also abstinent from drugs and alcohol. They should seek support through outpatient counseling sessions and community support organizations. There are many ways you can help them find support and show them support:
“We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them.” Albert Einstein
Aftercare is an important part of recovery. If they go to rehab for 30 days, the treatment doesn’t end when they leave. They need to attend meetings regularly, make doctor appointments, and possibly see a therapist if insurance can cover it or a price can be worked out. Aftercare includes social activities, family events, holidays, and long-term goal planning. When your child leaves rehab make sure you do not do all their planning, but help them by:
Enabling is fixing problems for your children and doing so in a way that interferes with growth and responsibility. If they decide to buy drugs or alcohol with their money instead of paying rent, they should lose their house or apartment. If you are an enabler, you will pay for their rent instead of dealing with the consequences of not having a place to live, which would teach them the importance of responsibility. This is a pattern of unhealthy rescuing that doesn’t allow them to grow up through experience, which will only worsen their dependency. Somethings you can do to stop enabling and begin teaching them to grow independently is:
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